Wednesday, March 26, 2008

It Has Happened Again

So once again in the adoption world, we are all faced with the awful feeling of absolute hatred for what appears to be another mother killing her Russian born, adopted child. This baby was 14 months old. I will say it again, 14 months old.
Blunt force trauma.

And so now, programs around the Russian Federation are shutting down, regional MOE directors are halting the release of referrals, and now in 10 regions they are not accepting dossiers from American families. Who can blame them? We kill our children. Now I have seen it on the FRUA board that we should withhold our judgement, what? Did you hear the cause of death? BLUNT FORCE TRAUMA.

Some blame the agencies. Some refuse to blame. I think I line up the blame square along the shoulders of the person who administered the BFT. I am a skeptic and think the dad had something to do with it. Can't help but think that if abuse is going on in a family, both parents know.

They are throwing the failure to thrive into this. Sadly the older brother didn't gain the weight it was felt he should gain. He was only home a month or so, bless his heart. Bless both their hearts.

So what now, hate the Russians for putting their feet down? No
I beleive in a zero tolerance approach. Is it that tough to NOT KILL A CHILD?
I don't think so.

So bring on the slow downs Russia. Shame on America for setting the tone that we won't prosecute families who hurt their own babies.

2 comments:

Christine said...

I am so sorry. This is is tragic. 14 months old is such a sweet age.

Jim said...

Jojo, it's important to note that the father of this child is Russian. But no matter what, it's still a tragedy when a child is killed by their parent(s), no matter who they are, where they live or what country they pledge allegiance to...even Russia.