Are you effing kidding me? Really?
Ok, so this rant is gonna be brutally honest. My thought and opinions of Torry Ann Hansen of Shelbyville, Tennessee and her act of absolute cruelty this week.
Let's start with, I believe in forever.
I am still sad that my parents divorced when I was 16. Luckily, they always acted like adults and although it hurt everyone then, we have morphed into a very solid, very close family. My mom and dad still spend every holiday together even before there were grans. I am full of strong, "stick it out" gypsy blood. The moment I laid eyes on Anna's referral photo, she was mine. AugustRose referral photo was so awful that I cried. So for her adoption, I fell in love with her when she walked around the corner of the director's office at her orphanage. Forever. Always.
My girlz were given to me by Russia. Seems sort of mystical and PollyAnna-ish, sure. But there is one half of my heart that feels intense grattitude.
The other half of my heart wants to rip the eyes out of the higher ups who are now all over Russian and American news programs chastizing Torry Hansen (ALL AMERICANS) for sending her adopted son back to Russia. Really? Where have you been Mr. Ministry of Blah Blah? There are only 740K orphans in your country, and now you are soooo concerned about this one? Well, here's a thought. Adopt them and we won't have to. Or get to.
It's hard to split my mind that way. To love and to loathe.
We all know someone like Torry Hansen. You know her. The woman who is in the middle of a tough situation. But instead of trying to fix it, or work on it, she looks for people to blame for the problem she faces...So who does our mom of the hour choose to blame? The Ministry of Education in Moscow. If she really meant what she wrote in her letter, she would have sent the child back to Vladivostock. Which brings me to question what is really going on here.
I am sensing there is more to this than we are hearing right now. There is a reason that this woman took this step...This woman is mad. She is angry.
She never contacted her agency about problems. Never contacted her local Department of Social Services. Was she new???Didn't she have a million friends, Real or Virtual who she could lean on? What the hell?
The largest problem is that the one person who should have been able to offer reasonable options cosigned her disfunction by becoming an active participant in this years version of the all too familiar nightmare for WAITING FAMILIES. Thanx Grandma.
And where is that guy they paid $200.oo to deliver the child? I have stayed pretty close with most of the Russian folks that helped me during my adoptions, but not in the;
"Hey, my shiny new Russian kid is a terror, can you pick 'em up from the airport and return 'em" kind of close.
I am telling you. There is more to this.
Because I am a forever girl, I want to smack some sense into the heads of this duo. I want to shake them and let them know that there is no one who is at fault here but them. Grandma traveled with her daughter when she adopted this poor child. Blaming the orphanage is laughable. I have said it before, I don't get people who can consider NOT being forever kind of parents. Maybe because my girlz are very easy kind of kids. Maybe because I have lots of support from family, friends, and blogger folks who offer ideas, do I feel this way.
But give me an effing break. A plane alone? How could this idea seem legit to anyone over the age of 12? So tonight, my heart is angry with the dynamic duo for NOT being
Forever kind of people.
my thoughts and prayers are very much with waiting families. i have been there. Nina Hilt rocked my adoption.